As the years go by, I find myself making increasing use of three types of questions in my effort to help partners find their voice and come up with the missing conversation. These three are the multiple-choice; how much, how much; and sentence-completion questions. This blog is devoted to the multiple-choice question, which expands an […]
Dan Wile: August 3, 1938 – March 18, 2020
A memorial service celebrating Dan Wile’s life will be held some time in 2021 when it is once again safe to gather together.
Dan’s Final Book – Now Available
Solving the Moment: A Collaborative Couple Therapy Manual
The book helps therapists with specific interventions, offers the thinking behind them, and provides numerous engaging dialogues as examples.
“Read this book. Treasure this book. We will always honor Dan for his profound innovations. We believe that his insights will become fundamental for your own success as a couples therapist.”
— From the Foreword: John Gottman, PhD & Julie Gottman, PhD, The Gottman Institute
“In this posthumous book, Dan Wile comes alive with wisdom, humor and compassion, as the brilliant couple therapist he was. His focus is on “solving the moment” – helping adversarial partners connect, creating a “platform” from which they can see their yearnings and vulnerabilities with empathy. Dan’s stance is collaborative and humble. Rather than exerting clinical authority from a one-up position, he is literally by a client’s side, articulating fears or hopes lurking beneath the fight. His articulation of therapist self-doubts humanizes the therapeutic enterprise. The book is refreshingly honest, funny, and instructive – a great guide for seasoned and beginner therapists alike.”
–Mona Fishbane, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist, author of Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy
“Dan Wile’s final book distills a master clinician’s work of a lifetime. Unlike many texts on couple therapy, this book provides detailed suggestions for what precisely to say to help couples come together to collaborate – to “solve the moment” and reconnect. The book is free of jargon and even fun to read. As a fan and beneficiary of Dan’s writing and wisdom for many years, I guarantee that studying his clinical examples will improve your therapeutic skill. I heartily recommend this book to therapists of all levels of experience.”
— Arthur Nielsen, M.D, author of A Roadmap for Couple Therapy: Integrating Systemic, Psychodynamic, and Behavioral Approaches
More Books by Dan
After the Honeymoon
After the Fight