I am writing a book—Solving the Moment: A Collaborative Couple Therapy Manual— based on my blog entries. Here is the introductory chapter, which grew out of my May 27, 2019 blog: A Synopsis of Collaborative Couple Therapy. In this introduction, I lay out the essential features of Collaborative Couple Therapy, presenting in a few pages […]
Posts tagged Collaborative Couple Therapy
RECASTING COMPLAINTS AS WISHES AND FE...
Doubling, speaking as one partner talking to the other, is the premier way to accomplish the principal task of Collaborative Couple Therapy, which is to turn arguments into conversations and disengagement into engagement. When I first began to double, before I had sufficient experience to develop mental guidelines for doing so, I simply asked myself, […]
BERNARD APFELBAUM’S EGO ANALYSIS
Collaborative Couple Therapy is rooted in Bernard Apfelbaum’s Ego Analysis—as I think will become clear when reading this piece. Bernie, who was my mentor, died on July 5, 2016. Some of us who have been deeply influenced by him are thinking of putting together a Wikipedia piece on ego analysis. In this effort, I wrote […]
A Synopsis of Collaborative Couple Th...
The following is a synopsis of Collaborative Couple Therapy theory, simplified to reveal the logical flow from each element to the next. The problem is fighting and withdrawing. The solution is having a conversation. Having a conversation is solving the moment. The conversation begins with a sentence: intimacy may be just a sentence away. The […]
THE MULTIPLE-CHOICE QUESTION IN COUPL...
As the years go by, I find myself making increasing use of three types of questions in my effort to help partners find their voice and come up with the missing conversation. These three are the multiple-choice; how much, how much; and sentence-completion questions. This blog is devoted to the multiple-choice question, which expands an […]
